My Top 15 Most Viewed Quora Answers

1.8 MILLION content views. That's pretty dope.

But, joking aside. Quora has been such an awesome experience since I started many years ago and I'm super duper grateful for each view on there. 

We receive a good chunk of people coming from there. And as you'll see in a few moments...my answers are less in depth. Shorter. but still very valuable.

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Now let's begin. Here are some of my most viewed responses to different questions.

Side note - we took out some more popular questions because it was getting a tiny bit repetitive (6 answers on Confidence for instance). But anyways.

Let's begin.

FAMOUS ON QUORA VOLUME 1:

#1) Q: How can I become the best version of myself in a month?

Follow this list:

1. Wake up before 6:00 am every day. Practice discipline.
2. Make your bed immediately upon waking up. Perfectly.
3. Brush and floss your teeth. Twice.
4. Do not under any circumstances masturbate. This will keep your life force inside and boost your energy.
5. Write 3–5 things that you must accomplish the next day. Write this list the night before.
6. Do the list before you go to sleep. No exceptions.
7. Every day break a sweat. I don’t care if it’s 100 pushups, an hour workout, a jog. Every day break a sweat.
8. After dinner go on a 50– 90-minute walk. This will help you gain control and clarity of where you are heading in life.
9. Choose 1 bad habit and eliminate it from your life for the next 30 days.

Do this and you will be SHOCKED at how much you improve. Trust me.

#2) Q: What are some interesting things psychology can tell you about someone just looking at them?

Here are two interesting strategies I used all the time to read people within seconds of meeting them.

A) HOW THEY WALK

• Do they walk looking down?
• Looking up?
• In a rush?
• Slow?
• pep in their step?
• Dragging their feet?
• Daydreaming?
• Nervously?
• Confident with arms swaying?
• Tense and army like?

You can immediately tell how someone is by how they walk. Their mood and if you observe long enough their personality.

B) FOLLOW THE HANDS & FEET

• The feet will point in the direction they are paying attention to.
• The feet close together typically means they want to take up less space which is an expression of shyness.
• One foot facing upward is a typically more happy pose.
• The hands will display their level of confidence.
• Hands in the pocket is more demure.
• Hands hidden is more observant.
• Hands around the pelvis is a confident pose.

Go people-watching on a busy street this week and look at these three factors.

Hands. Feet. Walk.

Enjoy exploring! 🙂

#3) Q: What are some little-known ways to practice confidence?

Little known ways to practice confidence:

1. When you walk into a room, take two steps and stop. Look around while moving your head slowly. Do not look at anyone in particular. Do this for 3–4 seconds and go where you want to go.
2. If you can squat, lift heavy and keep a relaxed face. No matter what type of situation happens in life, you will be calm and confident.
3. Relax your jaw. Keep your tongue on the top of your mouth at all times.
4. Great posture is a force multiplier. It will keep you calm, relaxed and confident.
5. Take up space. Move your body. Expand, do not shrink.
6. Do everything slowly. Move your body, head slowly. Walk slowly.
7. Keep your head straight. Stop jerking around everywhere distracted by the environment. If you want to turn right, move your body first.
8. When you hear a large crash behind you (someone dropped a cup) do not turn immediately. Turn on your own control.

#4) Q: How to deal with low-esteem & confidence?

1. Stop lying. You degrade your character every time you lie. You become weaker and weaker. Be honest. Tell the truth no matter how painful it is in the short run.
2. Be extremely careful with your commitments. If you say you are going to do something, you MUST do it. You must become a slave to your word. Confidence comes from self-trust. Now, would you trust someone that always lies to you? Obviously not. It’s the same with you. Follow through with your word and regain your confidence.
3. Get sexy. Workout. Improve your body. The thing about working out is that there is no shortcut. A great body is earned through sweat, discipline, and consistency.
4. Listen to subliminal audio. This is a secret hack that no one talks about. Please don’t ignore all the other points and just use this. It’s extremely powerful and has worked for me in the past. I have used this company before to great success.
5. Hang out with confident people. If you hang with scrubs, you will become a scrub. Change your environment to improve your life. This is an age-old principle.
6. Change your mental chatter. Is your mind tearing you down or building you up. I guarantee if you say “I’m just the type of guy that is extremely confident” 100,000 times you will be.
7. Become competent. Mastery. Growth. Develop your competence over a skill or passion. It is directly linked to how confident you are.
8. Do scary shit. Travel. Give a speech. Go to a dance class. Ask that girl out. Do things that scare you.
9. Talk to more strangers. Say hello on the bus. To the people in the class next to you. Become social. Receive the feedback that everything is okay. Your life is not at risk. People like you. This will all aid you in your journey to becoming confident.
10. Do not gratify impulses. A deep level of confidence arises when you transmute or don’t act on an impulse. Develop that discipline. Say no to instant gratification and watch your confidence skyrocket.

#5) Q: What are the three best habits for an exciting life?

Habits for an exciting life:

1. Be systematically crazy. A mentor once told me that. He said when you identify as crazy, you are now free. When you do something outside of the norm people will just say “oh him? he’s crazy”. Every now and then do something ‘weird’ and begin labeling yourself as ‘crazy’ to others.
2. Say yes. Want to check out that new restaurant? Yes. Want to travel to South America? Yes. Do you want to stay up all night and watch the sunrise? Yes. Want to try this weird food? Yes. Just say yes to things you want to say no to.
3. Approach strangers. When you have the ability to come to a stranger and spark a conversation everywhere you go turns into a playground.

Enjoy your new exciting life, friend.

#6) Q: How do you develop your social skills?

Improve your social skills:

1. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. “Hey, Jim I hate you.” vs. “Hey, Jim! I hateeeee you :)”
2. Statements over questions. “Hey, how was your day?” vs. “Hey! tell me about your day.”
3. To make a point, put a story around it. Instead of telling someone something, find a story that you can place idea inside of. It’s 100x more persuasive.
4. A lot of socializing is momentum. Talk to more people. Say hello. Ask for directions. Get the flow going.
5. Speak without talking. Use your eyes. Hand gestures. Point to their bracelet and scrunch your eyes instead of saying “what is that?”.
6. Stand side by side/diagonal with someone. Full body to full body is a lot of pressure. Most people can’t handle it.
7. Pause. If you want to make sure someone is paying attention….pause for a moment.
8. Never be an interviewer. “Hey, how was your day? What did you do after that? What did you eat? Did you drink also? How many times did you go to the bathroom?”
9. Don’t be afraid to touch others. A brief shoulder pat or elbow touch does a lot to build familiarity and is not even registered if done correctly.
10. Let your curiosity lead you. What are you curious about this person in front of you? What they are wearing? what they just said? Let that lead you in conversation. It’s genuine and will be reciprocated.

Enjoy the social world!

#7) Q: What is the best indicator of a person who will become successful one day? 

Here are the signs I look for:

1. They are not a scrub. They are not a shmuck. They take care of themselves. This one is hard to explain. It has a bunch of factors. Overall, they understand ‘it’ and are not a doofus.
2. They don’t complain. Complainers suck. They are victims and therefore cannot be successful.
3. They believe they can ____. Whatever ___ is. They might not know how to do it, but they believe that they have the raw material to make it happen.
4. They finish what they start. They don’t have 39 open projects and have never completed a body of work. They finish and close deals and concepts they work on.
5. They are high status. I wrote a popular article on this. Low-status people are needy and unattractive (not just physically). Read 39 ways to raise your status here.
6. They don’t accept the status quo. They have ambition and a slight competitive edge. It’s rarely “oh, this is how it is? Let’s not change a thing.”
7. They do things differently. Zig when others zag. They look at the common advice and do the opposite.
8. They are achieving mastery in something. Daily practice in a certain field. Most successful people have a high degree of competence (expert) status in their field.
9. They have a strong skill stack. Scott Adams talks about this. The more skills you have the higher your chance of success is. Skills include persuasion, copywriting, sales, marketing, public speaking, tennis, golf, networking etc.
10. They know how to sell. Sell ideas, products, concepts and themselves. Everything is a game of sales.
11. They believe in themselves. If it can be done, I can do it. They believe that they deserve the success they want.

#8) Q: What are signs that a man takes care of himself?

Signs a man takes care of himself:

1. His nails are all trimmed.
2. He is fit and in good shape.
3. The clothes he wears fit him.
4. His teeth are white.
5. His beard, if he has one is trimmed and oiled.
6. He doesn’t loose his phone, wallet or keys.
7. His bathroom is clean.
8. His room and care are clean.
9. There is food in his refrigerator.
10. He is not broke.
11. There is some vitality in his eyes. He is alive.
12. He smiles.
13. He doesn’t smell bad.
14. His clothes aren’t wrinkled.
15. If something ‘negative’ happens, he doesn’t react in horror.
16. Calm.
17. He has gotten a haircut within the last 2–3 weeks.

#9) Q: What should I do to change myself completely?

WARNING: Follow this exactly, and your life is guaranteed to change. Drastically. Use at your own risk.

1. Self-image work. Read Psycho Cybernetics. Maxwell Maltz (author) is the founder of self-image psychology. He was a plastic surgeon. People would come to him feeling sad because they had some deformity. Let's say a scar on their neck. They come in, he does the surgery and they leave still feeling sad. He was shocked as it happened again and again. The reason was that the way they saw themselves didn’t change. That’s why people diets don’t work. People lose weight but gain it right back because they still see themselves as a fat person. Change your self-image to the type of person you want to be. Be that person.
2. Travel. You will be a different person once you see how other people live in different parts of the world. I live in Miami, and I forget how spoiled I am. I literally live on the beach. Everything I need is beside me. It’s not like this for most of the world. Seeing a third world country will change you.
3. Delete social media. It affects you more than you realize. If you want to truly change yourself completely, you must cut off ties to the old you. Plus it’s a gigantic waste of time unless you are making money off it. If you aren’t the dealer and only using it, delete it.
4. Move. Live with your parents? Move. Go to a different state. A country. A change in the environment will shift you internally.
5. Workout. Get in the sexiest most powerful shape of your life. The process of working out week in and week out will change you. You will be confident. You will be disciplined. You will become more successful the more you appear attractive. Utilize the halo effect to your personal benefit.
6. Approach women. Women are ruthless. There is no better way for men to improve themselves. They will take your insecurity, bleed your heart dry and test all your boundaries. Let them. Never ever become bitter of it. Love women through the entire process. They are the true development. Only a woman can show a man where he is falling up short.
7. Learn to think for yourself. Study cognitive biases, critical and rational thinking. Make your own opinions on subjects. Go over everything you think you believe in and ask. Is this my opinion or someone else's?
8. Do not listen to music with lyrics. The best way to change yourself is through your thoughts. Most songs have absolutely horrendous lyrics. You are literally brainwashing yourself with garbage.
9. Become a VIP bouncer of your mind. Your mind is everything. Protect it ruthlessly. No shitty music. No negativity. Only think great thoughts. This is challenging at first and easier over time.
10. Listen to subliminal audio. They are affirmations designed to bypass your conscious and go directly to your subconscious. Be skeptical and try them out. They work. Find a company that has a good reputation with a money back guarantee. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I use Powerful Subliminals personally.
11. Don’t watch the news. The less news, the more you will be confident. The more news, the more fear.
12. Learn how to be high status. High status is a cheat code to life. Learn everything about it. Read this article about 39 ways to become high status.
13. Climb a mountain and don’t tell a soul. We rely on external validation more than we would like to admit. Do something great and do not tell anyone. For at least a year.
14. Read life-changing books. Jordan Peterson has a list of incredible books you should read. Check out our list as well, click this . These books will fundamentally change the way you see reality. Beware.
15. Change your clothes and haircut. Appear as your new self-image (step 1). Get a fresh haircut. Stop looking like a fucking loser. Wear clothes that fit. Look good. Feel good. Present yourself the way you would like to be seen.
16. Take psychedelics. I left this for last because it’s a shortcut. Honestly, it won’t do much unless you do other parts of this list. If you are doing a psychedelic experience, make sure you are not doing it to avoid the real work.
17. Spend an hour a day by yourself. No phone. No people. Better if in nature. You will build a relationship with yourself that will last a lifetime.

#10) Q: What are some confidence hacks?

Here are some confidence hacks:

1. Groom yourself. Clean your nails, get a haircut, scrub your body and be clean.
2. Wear clean clothes. No stains, clean underwear.
3. Wear fitting clothes. Wear clothes that actually fit.
4. Put your tongue on the top of your mouth. this relaxes your jaw. The jaw is where we hold stress. When you relax it, you will feel at ease.
5. Do what you hate first. Do the action that you want to avoid as it relates to confidence.
6. Walk confidently. Relax your arms, keep your head eye and walk with direction.
7. Take up space. Open your legs, wrap your hand around the chair next to you.
8. Exercise. During your work out make sure to add stretches that promote great posture.
9. High Status. Learn the 39 ways to be high status. It literally is a cheat code to life.

Overall, I didn’t like this question.

Stop looking for confidence ‘hacks’ and work on the fundamentals.

I.e. competence in the field, practice, body language, having direction, boundaries, and others.

#11) Q: I am 22 and totally lost in life. How can I turn it around? 

22 and lost in life?

1. Stop hanging out with your bum friends. The blood and emotion sucking leeches. The vampires. Get rid of them.
2. Stop doing drugs. Stop drinking alcohol.
3. Delete social media.
4. Stop hanging out in your room all day long.
5. Wake up at the same time every day. Don’t skip this step. Choose a time. 7? 8? No matter what time you go to sleep, wake up at this time.
6. Make your bed first thing in the morning.
7. Clean your room. I can see the clothes on the floor through your question.
8. Cut your nails. Get a fresh haircut.
9. Go for long walks. Follow the 50/90 principle.
10. Realize that you are not alone. Everybody is lost. Just some people realize that being lost is actually being found. The dream is pursuing the dream. Do you get this?
11. Only compare yourself to yesterday.
12. Every night write down 3 things you want to do tomorrow. Do them. Repeat every day.

Your only job is to move upward. No matter how small this list is, just do it. Your life can transform in 1 day. Trust me. I was there.

Also, I wrote a 3 part series on how to get your life together. It’s in my answers on my profile or you can read part 1 here.

12) Q: How to be an asshole

How to be an asshole:

1. When people tell you something, pretend like you weren't listening.
2. When someone tells you something positive, make sure to trump their answer with something you did that's even most positive. ”You saved two dogs? Well I saved three”.
3. Ask how someone is doing then talk over them.
4. Make sure to buy a car that makes a ton of noise.
5. Drive said car after 11pm so you can wake people up.
6. Become upset when people don’t know who you are.
7. Save some of your cruelness to all service staff you get in contact with. Make sure to take out your problems on them.
8. Practice beeping immediately once the traffic light turns green.
9. When someone attempts to get into your lane while driving, act like they don’t exist.
10. Make people open the door for you and don’t say thank you.
11. For at least 10 minutes a day practice a look of disdain in front of a mirror.
12. Laugh at people’s insecurities while ruthlessly hiding yours.

That should get you started.

13) Q: What has most improved your confidence with women?

Becoming better with women is the modern initiation for boys to become into men. Back then there were ceremonies with elders. Rites of passage.

Nowadays none of that exists.

If done correctly, your journey to improving with women will lead you to a path of personal growth, self-reflection, self-esteem, confidence, and belief in yourself.

If done poorly, it will lead you to become dejected, hateful, humiliated, and angry.

I truly, truly wish there was another way to answer this. Some trick. Technique. Go and do this and all your problems will go away. Sadly, there isn’t. If you want to improve your confidence with women, the real type. The one where you are authentic and honest, not conniving and manipulative. The path is challenging.

• It involves facing your fears. Time after time.
• It involves being vulnerable. With the possibility of being shamed.
• It involves letting go of emotional injuries from childhood.
• It involves learning about sexuality.
• It involves heartbreak. No way around this one, sadly.
• It involves getting your life together.

Women, in my opinion, are the #1 way for a man to improve. Women made me into who I am today. Their feedback about my shortcomings and where I wasn’t showing up tore me down on numerous occasions. Sadly, they were always right. In some sixth sense type of way.

That’s the overview of getting better with women.

Now back to answer your question.

How did I get become confident around women?

1. I realized women are humans. They have problems. They suffer. They go to the bathroom. They fuck up. Until you take them off the pedestal, you will always feel afraid of them.
2. I realized that I have nothing to prove. I’m enough already. I do not need their validation.
3. I got my shit together. I stopped being a loser in every area of my life. From body, mind, spirit, work.
4. I got rejected by thousands of them. This toughened me up.
5. I got my heart broken. This strengthened and matured me.
6. I become an expert at reading body language.
7. I asked women for feedback. They are great at this. However, if you do ask them for feedback be prepared to get your heart ripped out and cut into 1 million pieces.
8. I fell in love with women. I genuinely love women. I love being around them, looking at them, talking with them and seeing their beauty even if they don’t.
9. I realized sex is the most natural thing in the world. Sex is happening, everywhere. We all are on this planet because of sex.

Those are some of my realizations I’ve experienced on my journey.

Hope they are some help to you.

Enjoy!

14) Q: What are the signs that you are wasting your life?

SIGNS YOU ARE WASTING YOUR LIFE:

1. All your friends are married with kids.
2. All your friends are doing very well financially.
3. You are maxed out on all your credit cards.
4. You haven’t started paying off student loans.
5. Your credit score is sub 550-.
6. You are in terrible shape.
7. You live paycheck to paycheck.
8. You haven’t traveled outside of your country.
9. You are constantly avoiding important things to do.
10. You are friends with people who are wasting their life.
11. Everyone has a very concerned look when they see you.
12. You had a talent of some kind as a kid and haven’t done anything to improve upon it.
13. You are miserable and unfulfilled.
14. You think the entire world is out to get you.
15. You have no goals. No vision of the future.

-Daniel

15) Q: I am in my late twenties and I have never lived a disciplined life. How can I teach myself discipline and stop acting according to my whim?

This means you have a very weak warrior archetype.

Definition of the Warrior: discipline, focus, will-power, single-mindedness, getting shit done and doing it well despite challenges that will surface.

It’s where all your discipline and ability to ‘get shit done’ is developed.

If you have never been able to be disciplined, then it’s your shadow. Your weakest link. It’s also what's stopping you from becoming fully integrated.

Mistakes to avoid: avoid new years resolutions, attempting to start more than 1 new habit at a time, thinking you will go to the gym 5 times a week. Avoid changing your entire diet and focus on one meal a day.

For you to be disciplined, realize that the Warrior and you activating it in your psyche is not all fun in games. It’s painful. It could be facing your anxiety, physical pain, and self-doubt.

It’s where real growth happens. It’s not supposed to be fun.

Your primary goal: disconnect with your feelings and only focus on what you really want to achieve behind the doubt, anxiety, and fear.

Feelings don’t play a part with the Warrior. Don’t feel like going to the gym? Go anyway. Why? because you already said you would.

That’s the warrior.

Strategies for developing it in yourself:

1. Stop lying. People that aren’t disciplined in body and mind constantly lie. Complain. Create excuses.
2. Develop 1 new habit a month. Make it small. Don’t lie to yourself and say “yeah I’ll workout 5 days a week”. You fucking won’t. Rebuild your relationship with yourself. That is done by not lying and being honest. If you can work out once a week, cool. Only do 30 pushups a day? Cool. Start somewhere, and make sure that somewhere is where you can truly begin, not what sounds cool to others.
3. Practice feeling discomfort and acting regardless. A good way to do this is through cold showers. Put the water on cold. Get naked. Stand close to the water. Feel how much resistance you have. Feel terrible for 1 minute and then jump in.
4. Disagree with people. Most likely you have some people pleaser in you. Disagree with people even if you agree with them. Playfully.
5. Stand your ground. If someone challenges you, or your idea, don’t flip right away. Stand your ground. Hold your perspective.

Enjoy developing your warrior!

Daniel